Tuesday, August 05, 2008

The time has come.....

Well on Thursday at 10:30 I will officially say good-bye to J. Wow! You think you prepare yourself for this and are so ready for this, but man its been a weepy sort of day today. I finally told him on Sunday at the breakfast table and he said "I think I'm going to love that!"...ok that's great. Then yesterday I started sorting through all the toys and going through his clothes and he said
J: " oh I get to take those toys?",
Joc: "of course they are yours you got them for Christmas and your birthday and other special times."
J: "oh that's great, i like that"
Then by lunch time I could tell he was getting a little apprehensive and started asking lots of questions about his new house and who is going to be there. I tried my best to reassure him, with the zero detail I know about his new home. I think that is when I really started to get anxious about the move, however this morning I spoke to his worker and confirmed the time. I found out he is going to be closer than I thought, I don't know how much I can say but I was relieved that he may even still see some of his friends from time to time and I can still keep an "eye" on him-but not really. I just felt better, I also get to take him to his new house and the switch doesn't have to happen at the office, so it will be nice to chat with the new mom and just settle J in.
Tommorow is a really fun birthday party and then telling his friends that he's leaving and then the good-byes over the next day or two and trying to continue reassuring him without losing it myself. I think I tried to distance myself over the past few months, knowing this was coming and thinking it would be easier, but it really isn't. I am really thankful my family is coming from BC as a good distraction and then a Calgary trip at the end of the month!
On another note the placement unit is begging my to take a baby, ohhh a baby, Jeff said NO! We are taking a break Jocelyn, ok, but its a baby........(good thing my husband thinks with his head and not just with his heart-he keeps me thinking clearly and that I really want some special time with Aiden before the baby comes)
All in all you can just pray for us this week, especially for J that he will just have a really fun home and settle in really well!

8 comments:

Janelle said...

thinking about you guys so much as you go through this transition. i'm understanding more & more as we become more involved in the Foster Parenting life how hard it must be to let go.
i'm glad you get to see his new home & i hope you will have peace with where he will be.
you have been an incredible family to him, and he'll take the love you have given him into the rest of his life. i admire that SO much.
p.s. when we get back from holidays - i still really want to sit down with you & chat! :)

Ruth said...

Praying for all of you!
A. Ruth

Leanne said...

Wow, that's tough. I will be thinking of you and J a lot...praying.

Anonymous said...

Its hard to believe that J has been in our family for almost a year already. I am crying thinking about loosing him as well. Make sure he gets a hug and a couple kisses from Auntie Jolene! I will be thinking and praying for you guys on Thursday. I know what a tough year this has been for you guys and how some days were horrible, but I can't help but think of all the good things that J got to experience with you. I know will always remember you guys!

Rosanna Toews said...

Thinking of you lots. Wish I could come spend a few last breakfasts at WW with J and you guys. Love you!

Dan and Lynn said...

Wow, that's really tough. I hope things went okay yesterday and that J enjoys his new home & family. I'm glad to hear that he's going to be somewhat nearby. J was such a huge part of your life - it must have been terribly difficult to say good-bye to him. Praying for you guys!

Anthony and Kristi said...

I haven't been on the computer lately, so I didn't know your news! I've been thinking about you and praying for you though because I knew this time was coming. I hope everything went well for all of you and that J is settling into his new home. You guys did an amazing job with him - you'll never know the lasting impact you made on his life! Hang in there and enjoy your special times with Aiden! Love you guys!

Trev and Rebekah said...

Wow, what a lot of changes. I think it's wise to take a break and spend some special time before the baby comes. Though fostering a baby would be fun and A LOT of work.
Sorry you had to say good-bye to J. Though he wasn't your own I am sure he was beginning to feel like family which makes the good-byes hard. I wonder if Aiden will notice.